It's May-do you know where your masturbation is?

M is for May
M is for Multiple Orgasms
M is for Masturbation.

I know the month is almost over, but in case you didn’t know, May is National Masturbation Month. I’m not sure about the rest of y’all, but I’m a patriotic kinda gal and make sure I celebrate a few times a week for every week of the month.

Masturbation is one of those things that almost all of us do, but many of us can’t actually bring ourselves to come out and say so. I'm going to be the first to come right out and say it.

I'm Strange and I'm a proud masturbater.


We’ve been taught to believe that to touch ourselves in a sexual way is immoral, dirty, and just plain old gross. We been trained to believe that the only way for us to receive sexual gratification is within the confines of heterosexual relationship, preferably in a marriage. We been fed the idea that if you touch yourself "down there" you run the risk of desensitizing yourself to physical stimulation. I’m here to tell you, it’s not. When we embrace masturbation as a healthy part of our sexual lives, we free ourselves from thousands of years of societal dogma that has sought to control our pleasure.

If I’m being completely honest, I’ll have to admit being a little distrustful of anyone who claims to not masturbate. Yeah, yeah, I know it’s judgy and all, but I have to wonder how uncomfortable with their body is a person who doesn’t partake in a little self love from time to time. It’s perfectly safe, healthy, and normal (whatever that is). Think of it this way, at least you know the person you’re with will have the decency to call you the next day. If you don’t call the next day, you might want to talk to a therapist about your communications skill with yourself. I’m just saying.

Reasons to masturbate:

• It feels good
• No risk of STIs/STDs (sexually transmitted infections/sexually transmitted disease)
• You don’t have to buy dinner to get yourself in the sack.
• Alleviate headaches. Trust me on this one. Trust.
• It feels good
• No risk of unwanted pregnancy
• Discover how you like to be touched, loved, fucked. Increase your sexual awareness.
• Being comfortable with your body means being more comfortable with a partner.
• Just because you want to
• It really feels good.

Reasons you shouldn't masturbate:

• Um...err...uh...I can't think of any

Suggested reading:
Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation- Jamye Waxman
Sex for One- Betty Dodson, Ph.D
The Big Book of Masturbation- Martha Cornog
First Person Sexual- Joani Blank


Now go forth and rub one out. Hell, rub a few out.

- Strange ((^_~))

Whew...decisions decisions

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about what exactly it is I want to do with my life, professionally speaking. How do I wish to make money and sustain myself and future Mrs. (11 days and counting to the wedding by the way)?

For so long I’ve been so hyper focused on going to San Francisco State University for graduate school and studying in their Human Sexuality Program. It's the reason I went back to school to get my bachelor's degree. If they had offered a BA degree in Human Sexuality I would have stopped with schooling once I got my BA. I’ve focused so much on wanting to get acceped into the masters program that every report card I got would have me biting my nails, wondering if my GPA was still high enough for this program. I needed at least a 3.0. My GPA is around 3.2. I wondered if I was smart enough to get in or if I was a "radical enough thinker" for San Francisco. I'm a borderline tree hugging liberal, but there are times when I feel some of my views regarding sex, sexuality, and gender can be construed as conversative by Bay Area standards. Since it’s the only program of its kind in the United States (other than 1 doctoral program in Pennsylvania) I was so fixated on getting accepted into SFSU. If I could just get in, I’d be set.

As I now enter my last semester of undergraduate work it’s now time for me to start the application process for the Human Sexuality Program.

At least it was...until a few weeks ago.

My BFF, "Alexis", threw me a bachelorette party about 3 weeks ago. Towards the end I mentioned to one of the party guest my school plans. She was like, “nope. You don’t need to go there to learn and teach about sexuality.” My party guest had actually worked in the department and didn’t have great things to say about it. As we talked I realized that there were other avenues (right here in the Bay Area) for me to obtain the type of sexuality education I wanted. I'm more interested in counseling/advising rather than scientific research in the field of sexuality.

Right now my goal is to go through the San Francisco Sex Information Training Program. I'm also going to enroll in City College of San Francisco's Sexual Health Educator Certificate program The cool thing about CCSF's program is that I've already taken two of the required courses in the past.

I can’t explain how relieved I am to have that weight off my shoulders. Now I’m in the process of investigating other fields of graduate worked that will compliment my sexual education studies. I’m thinking possibly a Masters in Social Work, Counseling, or Sociology. Seeing how these are degrees that are offered at many colleges and university right here in the Bay Area the anxiety of “will I get in,” has dissipated.

Now I need to turn my attention to getting admissions applications submitted.



- Strange ((^_~))